Foot and mouth

Recent news of a Foot and Mouth outbreak in Surrey prompted a remark by a close friend. She has a long-standing friendship with a guy who owned a trucking company. Most of his business in 2001 when the horrendous Foot and Mouth epidemic devastated the livelihoods of those working in agriculture. Her friend was alarmed that he could lose everything. His business was wiped out as a consequence of the ban on transporting livestock. In a desperate move to stave off bankruptcy and protect his wife and young family, he transferred ownership of his home into his wife's name. Tragically, on his return from a trip when he was trying to drum up some business, he arrived home to find all his possessions had been dumped outside 'his wife's home'. Unknown to him, she'd been having an affair for many months. The moment the house was in her name, she threw her husband out, and her lover moved in. The husband lost everything.

The 'nice quiet guy' syndrome

I have a friend and colleague . He's a university lecturer; intelligent, articulate and used to robust thinking. When he heard about this new book, he wrote the following;
One of my friends (a really nice quiet chap) was targeted a few years ago - got married, had a kid, she kicked him out, demanded all his assets (which he gave), refused access to the child etc etc. She has just run out of money and believe it or not has now moved in with him so that he can sub her lifestyle - unbelievable!! I'll get a copy for my sons!

Why is it that the nicest, quietest, most supportive guys get abused so much?

This is one of the topics I discussed with a journalist this evening, writing for the Guardian Online. Will I be abused?I was asked if I was a misogynist? I love women. But not the nasty ones. I am passionate about helping nice, 'gentle' men from being abused by anyone who tries to take advantage of their genourous, non-confrontational attitude towards life. Some how, some women will choose to interpret this as some kind of 'attack' on all women!

LOADED Magazine interview

Yesterday I was interviewed for the first time about this book by LOADED Magazine in the UK. The journalist polled some readers of the magazine beforehand to get some idea of the dilemmas they face with the 'difficult' women in their lives.

Their questions were a revelation and provided conclusive proof to me at least that this book, "That Bitch: Protect Yourself Against Women with Malicious Intent" is needed. Some men asked why it is they always seem to attract 'nutters' and malicious women, what can you do when your girlfriend 'expects' you to pay for everything when you go out, even when she works too. One reader shared his experiences of being 'bad-mouthed' behind his back. She is the mother of their child. He is an active loving father yet she constantly 'slags him off' to his mother. In his words, it was 'doing his head in'. Interestingly, all the issues raised in the interview are already covered in the book. You'll have to wait to see what they publish - it should hit the newsstands in early September 2007.

What's the book about?

Inside This Book:

1. She did WHAT? Abusive women and what they do to unsuspecting men and women and effect this has on children. And you thought it was just you.
2. Her Life was a Lie. Detailed case studies of how one woman married a man without telling him something very important about herself beforehand, and how another persuaded her boyfriend to ‘help her out’, with disastrous consequences for him.
3. The Psychologies of Malice – how to spot the telltale signs of trouble ahead. We guarantee you will be shocked to discover so many behaviours by women you know or have been in a relationship with.
4. She Wants a Husband – what to do to protect yourself. Only a foolish investor would go into a business partnership without conducting ‘Due Diligence’. Marriage is a form of business partnership. Although if a marriage is ever ‘liquidated’ – it’s the male ‘director’ who is invariably forced by law to pay out. If the ex-wife becomes vindictive, the man will lose. You need to study our ‘Marriage Due Diligence Checklist’ very carefully before you take the plunge. With divorce rates still climbing all over the world, this checklist alone could be a lifesaver for any man who is contemplating marriage to the wrong woman.
5. She Wants a Divorce – what men don’t know about divorce and how this costs them. What you can learn from the way women approach divorce; how and why they invariably win. We have interviewed top divorce lawyers who represent women. They share what women are told to do with such devastating effect. We explain what you can do about it.
6. Children as Weapons of Male Destruction (WMD). According to UK Government research, 40% of divorced mothers admitted they have used access to ‘her’ children as a way of punishing an ex-husband. What you need to know to ensure your children are not abused in this way.
7. Protection Strategies for Men and Women. Part 1. No matter how innocent you are, if she gets truly nasty, you will need to protect yourself. These two chapters provide detailed guidance about assessing all the risks you may face and what to do, when to do it and how to do it. And importantly, what you must NOT do – ever! And why thinking ‘She’d never do that.” could be your biggest and most costly mistake.
8. Protection Strategies for Men and Women. Part 2.
9. Seek First to Understand Why she may be like this. Understanding her background and the way she may be thinking could help you deal with your situation more effectively.
10. Full Esteem Ahead. Crushed, abused, emotionally drained or defeated, it’s time to re-build your life. Practical ways to re-build your self-esteem for a brighter future.

That Bitch Book

Lying, cheating, conniving and manipulating are everyday tricks of her tyrannical trade. Claiming to be the victim when she is the aggressor, she makes it far more difficult for genuine female victims to receive the help they need and deserve.